“I think Forgiveness Day is a great idea because, just like Valentine’s Day, it may give people just that extra push to do what they already want to and know they should- to move closer with people they love.”
Click the document above to view the petition in google docs and click in the form below for an invitation to sign this October. Pass on the Love! Share the invite to sign the petition and to the event with 3 other people!!!
“WHEREAS, both wisdom proverb and research admonish to us the need to remove anger, hurt, bitterness, and unforgiveness from our hearts by forgiving ourselves and others as essential to living healthy, happy, stress-free lives; and
WHEREAS, it is important to take time to repair, restore, rebuild, and revive damaged relationships through the power of love and joy of forgiveness and to seek peace as well as justice;
WHEREAS, volunteers and supporters from Florida and across the nation will join together throughout the month of October to celebrate National Forgiveness Month, Forgiveness Week (week leading up to the third Saturday of October), and Forgiveness Day (the third Saturday in October); and
WHEREAS, people of diverse race, sex, religion, background, and life history will be asked to practice forgiving all others, forgiving themselves, asking bitterness to be removed, and asking joy to be restored also through loving expressions in art, poetry, and appreciating diverse cultures;
WHEREAS, this observance is to create an awareness and understanding of the power of love and forgiveness in producing good health, happiness, and stress-free living in the lives of individuals in our homes, work, and worship environments; and
WHEREAS, Florida will be the 15th state to issue such proclamation;
THEREFORE, I, _____________Governor of the State of ___________, do hereby proclaim October 17, 2015, as NATIONAL FORGIVENESS DAY, and encourage citizens to forgive themselves and others on this day and throughout the year.
Why: To Celebrate National Forgiveness Day and to promote an awareness of the importance of forgiveness for our community and nation. We are also celebrating SConnection’s new Gym, Loving Therapy, Inc. gaining non-profit status, as well as many community partners.
This year we invite you to upload and share videos about what forgiveness means to you on the event page, beautiful stories of forgiveness, submit artwork and poetry on the page, and to practice the principles of forgiveness.
One Definition is: Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.
It is important to note this point from Psychology Today Magazine:
“Mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, instead of allowing anger toward them to eat away at us, is the course of action recommended by most psychologists. An exception to the belief that burying the hatchet brings peace to the soul may be sexual abuse: Some victims of these crimes are empowered when given permission to not forgive.”
Forgiveness is a process. Forgiveness does not mean we do not feel badly when we do wrong, or others do wrong against us.
BE HEALTHY – BE WELLTHY – BE WISE PLAN OF ACTION
Declare the day a joyful day. Speak the truth with love. Ask good questions. Listen with understanding. Think in silence. Do not give permission for anger and hurt to take away your joy. Restore relationships by asking what you can do to make the relationship better.
Use your 7 super powers. You have the power to control attitude, honesty, communications, love, encouragement, forgiveness and being humble and admitting shortcomings. Say these 21 wonderful words as often as possible: I’m wrong. I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. You’re welcome. Please. What is your opinion? I love you. Yes dear. We is the most important word. We are all made beautifully. Know that the power of love and the joy of forgiveness exists inside of you. Love to all.
Ask for forgiveness and forgive others. This may bring about a beautiful reconciliation.
Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. That is not always possible; it’s an attitude of the heart. Forgiveness means you let go of seeking out justice for the wrong done yourself with your own hands. Reconcilition has been attempted but is not an option. It means you were wronged, but forgive within your heart and wish the best for the other person. You may report to the appropriate authority, and then let it go. They may still have consequences and no longer be a part of your life but you wish them the best.
If you are a person of faith find forgiveness also through prayer.
Find peace through love. Love yourself. Love others.
Stories, Videos, Art, Poetry, Dance, Music
“Laughter is a huge part of forgiveness! It helps us to love ourselves with all of our flaws, faults, failures, quirks, and idiosyncrasies. Blaise Pascal has said, ‘The same things make us laugh and cry.’ Laughter is good medicine.”
“Art has to be a kind of confession. I don’t mean a true confession in the sense of that dreary magazine. The effort it seems to me, is: if you can examine and face your life, you can discover the terms with which you are connected to other lives, and they can discover them, too — the terms with which they are connected to other people.”
— James Baldwin, 1961
On what Baldwin says here: When we are able to look ourselves in the face and truly accept ourselves with all our faults and failures we can represent that through art. Art is a process that helps us to do this and only when we truly see ourselves and love every part can we truly see and love others and feel that connection- and vice versa. Art is a part of how we know ourselves, forgive ourselves, love ourselves and others.
Camus once said, “We all carry within us our ravages, our crimes, our places of exile.” Are there ravages you still inwardly struggle with?
Rachel Hofer, MS
Looking for volunteers to help with a variety of tasks including potentially (depending on area of interest):
planning and coordinating events
Public Relations, community liaison
Creative Project Development/Think Tank
If you are looking for an opportunity to learn and grow, to train, or just to give back we would love to have you on our team!
Email firstname.lastname@example.org for the volunteer application!
Rachel Hofer, MS
As I watched her working throughout the time when she lived with cancer and through chemotherapy treatments I admired her so much. She always had a positive attitude and encouraged the people who came in to see her. She dedicated her time and attention fully. She reminded me of the proverb, “A generous persons will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed (Proverbs 11:25).”
The name ‘Loving Therapy’ comes from an idea I had about how she explained to a child what a therapist is. She said, “A therapist is like a doctor for your heart and your feelings.”
Dr. Cheryl Laird was my first supervisor. I am thankful for her often for all that she taught me and miss her. God bless her family and work.
Rachel Hofer, MS
Rachel Hofer, MS, is a contractor and works with Rachel Cannon Ghulamani, M.S., LMHC at Private Reflections, LLC. Rachel Cannon Ghulamani, LMHC, specializes in providing couple’s and marriage counseling through Emotion Focused Therapy. This therapy focuses on the underlying attachment needs and fears and the underlying negative cycles. Through recognizing these cycles and working in session on communicating unmet needs and primary fears, relationships that were once dead can come alive again. This is the most cutting edge and successful type of couple’s counseling. It is essential when choosing a relationship counselor that you choose a counselor who uses Emotion Focused Therapy. It is the most successful form of couple’s therapy and there are only a handful of marriage counselors in the Gainesville area that are trained in this type of counseling.
The book Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson is a wonderful resource for couples in therapy.